How can I marshal Objects from a Socket without closing it? (JAXB Marshaling from Inputstream via Socket) - sockets

Question

I have tried in many different ways to send my xml document over a socket connection between a server and a client without closing the socket after sending (keep the outputstream open, for sending another document). I have found several sites who claimed that it should work, so I tried it in all the ways they sugested, but I did not found a way which works.
(that describes the same what I would like to do: http://jaxb.java.net/guide/Designing_a_client_server_protocol_in_XML.html)
The follwing code works perfectly if I am closing the socket after sending (#code marsh.marshal(element, xsw);), but it stucks on unmarshaling on the server side, if I try to keep the socket open.
Client Side....
public void sendMessage(String message){
JAXBContext jaxbContext;
try {
jaxbContext = JAXBContext.newInstance("cdl.wizard.library");
Marshaller marsh = jaxbContext.createMarshaller();
marsh.setProperty(Marshaller.JAXB_FORMATTED_OUTPUT, true);
marsh.setProperty(Marshaller.JAXB_SCHEMA_LOCATION, "http://www.example.org/WizardShema WizardsSchema.xsd");
ObjectFactory of = new ObjectFactory();
// the Dataset is the root element of the xml document
Dataset set = new Dataset("CONN01", "CONTR", "MCL01#localhost", "SV01#localhost:32000");
CommandSet cmdSet = new CommandSet();
Command cmd = new Command();
cmd.setFunctionName("RegisterAs");
Param p = new Param();
p.setString("RemoteClient");
cmd.addParameter(p);
cmdSet.addCommand(cmd);
set.setInstruction(cmdSet);
// creates a valid xml dataset, with startDocument, startElement...
JAXBElement<Dataset> element = of.createData(set);
XMLStreamWriter xsw = XMLOutputFactory.newInstance().createXMLStreamWriter(mOOS);
marsh.marshal(element, xsw);
xsw.flush();
} catch (JAXBException e) {
e.printStackTrace();
} catch (IOException e) {
e.printStackTrace();
} catch (XMLStreamException e) {
e.printStackTrace();
} catch (FactoryConfigurationError e) {
e.printStackTrace();
}
SERVER Side....
private void handleMessage() {
JAXBContext jaxbContext;
try {
jaxbContext = JAXBContext.newInstance("cdl.wizard.library") ;
Unmarshaller um = jaxbContext.createUnmarshaller();
XMLInputFactory xmlif = XMLInputFactory.newInstance();
// XMLEventReader xmlr = xmlif.createXMLEventReader(mOIS);
XMLStreamReader xmlr = xmlif.createXMLStreamReader(mOIS, "UTF8");
// move to the root element and check its name.
xmlr.nextTag();
System.out.println("TagName:" + xmlr.getLocalName());
xmlr.require(START_ELEMENT, null, "Data");
JAXBElement<Dataset> obj = um.unmarshal(xmlr, Dataset.class);
Dataset set = obj.getValue();
System.out.println("ID:"+ set.getID());
} catch (JAXBException e) {
e.printStackTrace();
} catch (XMLStreamException e) {
e.printStackTrace();
} catch (FactoryConfigurationError e) {
e.printStackTrace();
}
}